Hey, it’s Jeremie Kubicek here.

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This newsletter's primary goal is to support you on your personal growth journey, and to equip you with the skills and knowledge you need to excel as a leader.

For this week’s message, I want to dive into a topic that hinders many people in life and in business… dealing with and overcoming limiting beliefs.

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Most people think they’re prohibited when they are actually inhibited.

What do I mean by that?

Let me explain…

Being prohibited is to be told you cannot do something by someone else who has authority.

Being inhibited is you telling yourself you cannot do something.

Or in other words… being prohibited means an actual law or rule is telling you that you can’t do it. It is enforced restriction.

Being inhibited roots from limiting beliefs and leads to you telling yourself you can’t do something out of fear or insecurity.

Have you ever heard someone say, “Well I tried, but they told me I couldn’t.” Who are “they?”

In most of the organizations I have personally served there tends to always be a “they” who keep everyone in a limited belief mentality.

A recent example of this happened with a client who had a direct report not do something she thought they had agreed to do.

When she asked why they didn’t finish that part of the project, the answer was “I thought you wouldn’t want us to do that.”

This teammate thought they were prohibited when they were actually inhibited out of fear of messing up the project.

Truly…there are very few things we are actually prohibited from doing.

Within the law, you can do just about whatever you want to with your life, your job, and your time.

But most people just accept their circumstances and don’t try to make a change… because they’re inhibited.

At times, this can create a victim mentality that can limit people dramatically. Here is how you can ensure you’re not inhibiting yourself:

• First, ask clarifying questions of others to see if you are truly prohibited from performing a certain task.

• Second, if you find you are inhibiting yourself, ask yourself why.

• Finally, think through the ramifications of not doing something you should just because you’re inhibited.
  
  

Rise above your own fears and begin to take initiative where you would normally be inhibited.

More often than not, inhibition becomes a default position for everyone. All of us can be inhibited to act on the dreams and visions that could lead to a greater future.

However, left untouched, inhibitions can be a dangerous reality. To be inhibited is to be limited and limited is never a way to live or to lead.

Most inhibitions are caused by negative experiences, words, and opinions of the past.

For example, if you’ve been told your whole life and believe you’re not capable of starting and running a successful business, no matter how hard you try, you’re not going to be able to do it.

It’s an unfortunate belief or inhibition that’s holding you back.

You cannot become the best version of yourself and become the leader you’re meant to be if you don’t confront and deal honestly with the inhibitions and words from the past that are holding you back from fulfilling your potential.

And on top of that, being concerned with what others think can seriously rob us of amazing feats in life.

The mission and message inside all of us are much bigger than the opinions of a few people.

So, are you inhibited? If yes, where are you limiting yourself?

• What are your current inhibitions in your personal mindset?

• What are your current inhibitions inside your marriage and/or family?

• What are your current inhibitions in your leadership inside your team or organization?
  
  

Now ask yourself what the cost is of allowing these inhibitions to be in your life. Usually, it’s an opportunity cost; because you are costing yourself time, freedom, or money.

“The fear in you is keeping you from the best in you.” - Jeremie Kubicek

Everyone deals with fear on some level… and that fear often stems from a place of self-preservation.

To overcome your limiting beliefs and become the leader you were meant to be, you need to break through your own insecurities and become a secure, confident, and humble leader.

There will be a cost — mentally, financially, and physically — just like working out in the gym, it won’t always be fun, but the results you’ll see from putting in the work will be with their weight in gold.

That's all for today's message. Thanks for reading!

Until next time,

Jeremie Kubicek