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3 Ways Self-Preservation Erodes Influence

Self-preservation occurs when you obsess about protecting the things you are afraid of losing.

Your job. Your authority. Your salary. Your bonus. Your title.

Your carefully curated image.

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20 Things to Stop Assuming

Assumptions.

The silent underminers of influence. They take us to a dangerous precipice of misattribution and blinded action. On the surface, they seem solid and reliable. After all, the very definition indicates a certain level of certainty about a conclusion, whether based on past experience or ignorance of additional facts and perspectives.

Assumptions Undermine Influence

But it’s that foundation that makes assumptions so dangerous. They often lead us to make hasty, misinformed, or potentially offensive judgments without seeing the true situation clearly.

If you look back at your own journey, it will probably surprise you how many leadership snafus or personal mistakes have come from misplaced assumptions. Success, greatness, breakthrough, liberation, and overall personal or relational peace are all at risk when we assume.

So, because a “Stop Doing” list is just as crucial as a “Start Doing” list, here are 20 things you should refrain from assuming in the future (in no particular order).

20 Things to Stop Assuming

  1. Don’t assume it’s a simple task and others should just “get it.”
  2. Don’t assume asking for help will harm your credibility.
  3. Don’t assume gossip is accurate! Better yet, just stay away from gossip. (Tweet This)
  4. Don’t assume if they read “this” book, they will change.
  5. Don’t assume they don’t feel entitled to all that you give.
  6. Don’t assume your awards, your numbers, and your things prove you are a great leader.
  7. Don’t assume everyone will love you if your plan succeeds.
  8. Don’t assume your idea will motivate others if you haven’t taken the time to know them.
  9. Don’t assume they won’t value your view or opinion.
  10. Don’t assume their annoying behavior will go away on its own.
  11. Don’t assume they are ready to jump on your objective without a “good morning” and cup of coffee first.
  12. Don’t assume their intent based on their Facebook post.
  13. Don’t assume your family sees how much you love them based on how hard you work. Tell them.
  14. Don’t assume your kids love it just because you do.
  15. Don’t assume they’ll just say no.
  16. Don’t assume your vote doesn’t matter.
  17. Don’t assume they won’t embrace the card, the letter, or the apology.
  18. Don’t assume things will never change.
  19. Don’t assume you can’t start over.
  20. Don’t assume you’re in good health. Be proactive, manage routines, and go to the doctor.

Oh, there’s one more.

If you just skimmed this and assumed none of them pertain to you, you better read it again.

Wishing you all the best!

This was originally posted by Dan Frey, Senior Associate with GiANT Worldwide, and I wanted to share it here as well.

 

If you’re interested in learning more about how assumptions can affect your leadership, we’re happy to schedule a meeting to discuss. Just click the contact button and let us know!

Influence: The Importance of Making an Impact

Influence.

Some people think influence is reserved only for the extremely rich or powerful – the types of people who run governments or large organizations or become the face of a national cause. But the truth is, each and every person wields significant influence in their lives, from family and teams to organizations and community. These are you primary circles of influence.

Effect vs. Impact

As a leader in those circles, you have the opportunity to positively or negatively influence the trajectory of those around you, whether family, friends, co-workers, or members of your community.

Since influence is power, we all have a great responsibility to utilize our influence for the best interest of those in our lives, so let’s start unpacking this responsibility by first understanding two key words:

  • Effect – to affect someone is to do something that changes the way they think, work, or live.
  • Impact – to impact someone is to mark them indelibly or otherwise alter their trajectory due to a deep, core-level influence.

For instance, we are affected by a thunderstorm due to electrical surges or temporary power outages, causing inconvenience, discomfort, and possibly changing the way we react to storms in the future. But we are impacted forever if that thunderstorm produces a tornado that destroys homes, property, and lives on a deeper level.

Aim for Impact

Similarly, every one of us affects each other in our lives on a daily basis, sometimes for better and sometimes for worse.

But very few people truly make an impact on others.

People who merely affect us can be forgotten, as their influence is passing and impermanent. People who impact us, however, are memorable and significant to our personal growth.

Therefore, we can choose to:

• Positively affect those around us through random (and intentional) acts of kindness OR
• Negatively affect those around us through annoying behavior.

That means we can decide to…

• Positively impact others by going above and beyond what they expect OR
• Negatively impact others by domineering behavior.

As leaders, let’s choose to not only make a positive effect, but to raise the game and invest our efforts in making a lasting impact that ripples beyond the surface. Let’s be intentional about altering the trajectory of others in a positive way for their long term benefit.

To be memorable is to carve out the gift of a good legacy and it all starts with a choice… a conscious choice that each of us needs to make.

If you’re interested in learning more about how to make an impact vs. an effect, we’re happy to schedule a meeting to discuss. Just click the contact button and let us know!

4 Questions to Better Understand & Lead Your People

When it comes to those you work with or lead it is important to know them well if you want to nurture strong team and individual growth. So how do you help your people grow?

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3 Hallmarks of Healthy Culture

Does company culture ever seem just too “BIG” to tackle? Does it leave you feeling like you’re trying to navigating an important journey with a compass to help show the way? It’s a long process of cultivation, that’s for sure, but today we’re going to talk about 3 hallmarks of a healthy culture to help guide you…

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10 Traits of Humble Leaders

Humility comes from confidence, grounded in competence, and seasoned with selflessness.

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The One Thing Good Leaders Must Do To Become Great

If you want to become a good leader, or better yet – a great leader – then there is one thing that must happen. This one thing is not fun, nor is it inspiring, and rarely is it ever written about. But this one thing is crucial…

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Words That Heal and Words That Steal

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

While viewed by many as a reminder to be “tough” and to not give the words of others more power than they are due, the fact is that this long-standing bit of wisdom is simply not true.

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6 Ways to Stay Present This July 4th

July 4th is almost here! Independence Day is a time for reflection and gratitude, recharge and family. It’s a time to celebrate the freedom we so deeply cherish, while remembering that the freedom we enjoy is anything but free. Let’s honor those who have given the ultimate sacrifice by making the most of the life we’ve been given! Here are six ways to make sure you stay present and connected with those you love this July 4th!

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