In Episode #19 of the Liberator Podcast, Jeremie and Steve discuss one of the largest issues that leaders face: self-preservation. Learn why this is dangerous and 3 questions you can use to identify and overcome your own self-preservation to become a better and more effective leader.
Self-preservation is the overprotection of the thing that you are afraid of losing. And this overprotection causes all types of insecurity, negative consequences, and emotional drama.
The irony is, however, that when you overprotect something, you actually lose what you are trying to protect much faster.
On the other hand, when you overcome your self-preservation, it increases your influence, makes you more secure, and makes you more confident. That’s what Liberators are – secure, humble, confident leaders using their influence for the good of others.
Thus it is imperative that we overcome our self-preservations in order to become Liberating Leaders.
Overcoming Self Preservation
Use the exercise below to help you understand and get to the root of almost any self-preservation tendencies.
- What are you afraid of losing and how does your behavior change when you start feeling this fear?
- What are you trying to hide and how does your behavior change when you start hiding something?
- What are you trying to prove and to whom? How does your behavior change when you start trying to prove something to someone? Use specific examples from your life.
These types of insecurities actually produce most of the drama inside organizations. In fact, self-preservation lies at the root of almost all non-liberating leadership behavior.
It manifests itself in our lives as a tendency towards acting like a dominator, protector, or abdicator.
- What effects have these types of self-preserving behaviors had on your life and relationships?
- Consider each of your 5 Circles of Influence (Self, Family, Team, Organization, Community). How have your self-preservation tendencies affected the people in each of those Circles? Be specific using examples from your life.
- What do you think it’s like to be on the other side of you when you exhibit these self-preserving behaviors?