Unfortunately, the nature of human existence and the fact that we live in an imperfect world means that we all experience hardship. We are all threatened by the variety of challenges we face every day – the pain of loss, the unfairness we endure, and the blows we take to our confidence. We all know what it’s like to wonder “Why now?” or “Why me?”
Some people think influence is reserved only for the extremely rich or powerful – the types of people who run governments or large organizations or become the face of a national cause. But the truth is, each and every person wields significant influence in their lives, from family and teams to organizations and community. These are you primary circles of influence.
Effect vs. Impact
As a leader in those circles, you have the opportunity to positively or negatively influence the trajectory of those around you, whether family, friends, co-workers, or members of your community.
Since influence is power, we all have a great responsibility to utilize our influence for the best interest of those in our lives, so let’s start unpacking this responsibility by first understanding two key words:
- Effect – to affect someone is to do something that changes the way they think, work, or live.
- Impact – to impact someone is to mark them indelibly or otherwise alter their trajectory due to a deep, core-level influence.
For instance, we are affected by a thunderstorm due to electrical surges or temporary power outages, causing inconvenience, discomfort, and possibly changing the way we react to storms in the future. But we are impacted forever if that thunderstorm produces a tornado that destroys homes, property, and lives on a deeper level.
Aim for Impact
Similarly, every one of us affects each other in our lives on a daily basis, sometimes for better and sometimes for worse.
But very few people truly make an impact on others.
People who merely affect us can be forgotten, as their influence is passing and impermanent. People who impact us, however, are memorable and significant to our personal growth.
Therefore, we can choose to:
• Positively affect those around us through random (and intentional) acts of kindness OR
• Negatively affect those around us through annoying behavior.
That means we can decide to…
• Positively impact others by going above and beyond what they expect OR
• Negatively impact others by domineering behavior.
As leaders, let’s choose to not only make a positive effect, but to raise the game and invest our efforts in making a lasting impact that ripples beyond the surface. Let’s be intentional about altering the trajectory of others in a positive way for their long term benefit.
To be memorable is to carve out the gift of a good legacy and it all starts with a choice… a conscious choice that each of us needs to make.
If you’re interested in learning more about how to make an impact vs. an effect, we’re happy to schedule a meeting to discuss. Just click the contact button and let us know!
When it comes to those you work with or lead it is important to know them well if you want to nurture strong team and individual growth. So how do you help your people grow?
“At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.”
– Steve Maraboli
A great question is better than a right answer to the wrong question.
Questions are powerful.
We’ve all had those days, haven’t we? Those tough days, emotional days, draining days – the days where, for whatever reason, we just don’t feel 100%.
Everyone has an attitude. Attitudes can be good, bad, or indifferent, but they can also change hourly, daily, weekly, or monthly.
If you want to be a good manager for you team, you must first learn to be a good manager of yourself. No matter what you think you can do through force of will, you can’t bring your best if you don’t put yourself in a position to be the healthiest version of you.
When change occurs, instability follows.
Unfortunately, that means it can take a while to settle into a new normal. Some change is hard, while other times change brings new excitement.
If your leadership is dead and your influence is shriveled up, let me suggest one step you can take to help make your leadership come alive…
The GiANT IDEA