“You have so much to be proud of!” That may be true.
But so is this:
You have a lot to be humble about.
If you’re new around here, we use the language of liberating leadership. Liberators fight for the highest possible good in the lives of those around them and they are genuinely for other people as opposed to being for themselves. To be for other people, we must embrace the journey of humility.
How do you do that?
Here are the top two lessons I’ve learned about growing in humility:
1. You will find the road to humility when you cross the bridge of gratitude.
If there is a secret, this is it: Gratitude.
Pride leads us to compare ourselves with others at the expense of denying our own unique contributions. Pride leads us to say life is not fair (which it is not), I deserve more! Gratitude makes space for humility. Gratitude banishes the “If I only did ____.” and the “Why am I not as far along as _____?” and replaces those lies with new perspectives: “What a privilege to get to do what I do” “You know on second thought, I do like my co-workers” “My boss is not as big of an $&*%* as I thought he was”.
Here’s a sticky thought I heard years ago; Gratitude is the attitude that sets the altitude for living. If you want to soar, start being thankful now. Gratitude will shift the direction of your heart upward instead of downward.
The flipside is that if you have complaining and bitterness in your heart, you will continue down the road of pride which leads to destruction. Pride destroys your reputation and will harm others. The bridge of gratitude is in front of you right now. Take the step.
2. Humility is developed in the shade.
You’ve got to start right where you are, where no one is watching. In your home office. In your cubicle. In your car (stop reading and driving!).
Here’s the thing: If you become thankful in the shade, you won’t ever care if you get into the spotlight. You’ll be so flooded with contentment that it won’t matter who notices. Then ironically, much like the impact of cross-training, you’ll find yourself with new opportunities. Your life has become attractive not repulsive like the impact of pride. When others are drawn to you, you’ll be surprised. You’ll wonder…seriously, me?
Yes, it is you. Don’t ever lose that wonder.